The Better Man Blog
Learn what it means to be an ally, a heart-based leader, and more with the Better Man Blog, updated monthly.
Calling In All White Male Leaders
In the last year, increasingly more women of color have been calling on me to speak to the white men in leadership at their companies. They share with me that it is their belief that hearing from someone that looks and sounds like them will be more effective than...
Book Signing Event (10.22.2022)
Calling all friends, family, colleagues, business partners, readers! Join us for a very special ‘Showing Up’ book signing event with Ray Arata in Corte Madera, California on October 22nd starting at 4:00 pm Pacific at Book Passage! Come and enjoy an excerpt or two...
The Machista Culture Nobody Talks About
When I tell my dad about what I do for a living it is hard for him to understand. He thinks it is just another thing that young people are doing these days to complain about their realities. This is not because he and his family are not affected by machismo in their...
Inclusionary Leadership: The Six Heart-Based Leadership Principles
As this year’s Better Man Conference approaches, I wanted to take some time to share what I consider the foundation of inclusionary leadership: the six heart-based leadership principles. At our conference on November 2nd, we will share additional tips and tools on...
Laboring Better
This coming Monday, most of us will have the work day off in recognition of the labor rights our forebears fought to achieve. Yet there are many people who are not afforded the privilege to take this day (and really any holiday) off. We have come a long way from the...
Women’s Equality Day
By Ray Arata | Founder of Better Man Conference | August 26, 2022 What do men have to do with women’s equality? Today, as we celebrate Women’s Equality, we recognize that most of the advancements that have been made in regard to that equality are...
Pass The Mic
While my name and face tend to dominate much of our Better Man media, my success is truly the result of a concerted effort from a team of diverse individuals who believe in our mission. It is not lost on me that as a white, cis-gendered man, my efforts to create...
Accountability takes heart – and it should be answered with love
By Ray Arata | Founder of Better Man Conference | July 28, 2022 “If you want to hold people accountable, you need to hold them.” - Anonymous In Showing Up: How Men Can Become Effective Allies in the Workplace, I introduce the six principles of heart-based leadership,...
The Journey to Allyship includes Rest and Restoration (in fact, it needs it)
In early April of this year, I started to recognize some internal mental pushback with respect to work. My brain didn’t want to function. I tried all my typical tricks - riding my bike, taking a nap, going for a walk - and nothing worked. This is when I realized that...
Men Do Care and We Need Them
A Forbes article I read recently explored how white men feel excluded from Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) efforts. As suspected, the statistics were concerning: nearly 70% of cisgender white men feel “forgotten” when it comes to their company’s DEI strategy....